When Should You Purge Clothes From Your Closet?

Have you started to notice your closet is packed with all types of clothes you thought you’d wear? You have shoes, hats, swimsuits, sleeveless tops, sundresses and even a pair of sunnies you never touched. In fact two summers has gone by and you never worn them at all ( tags still on) or you wore them once.

It’s time to purge the closet from summer clothes. Anything you didn’t wear or barely wore the last two summers should  go! It’s closet rules. You may have bought it compulsively, because it was only $5 bucks. No matter the reason, the fact is you obviously  don’t like it that much. You may say, “well if I get rid of it, my closet will look bare.” You only need the things you want and love enough to wear. Are you still with me? Stay focused on summer clothes. Be brutally honest with yourself. You don’t need to impress anyone with a closet full of things you don’t find flattering enough to wear. I think you get the gist.

Clear out the summer things on a day, when you aren’t in a rush . Make sure you’re in the mood for it. Otherwise, you will not do a good assessment. In that pile of clothes, shoes and accessories should be things that never fit correctly in the first place. For instance the shoes with your heel hanging on the edge, the shoes thats too tight, sunnies you bought because Sarah bought a pair, the paints that are three sizes too small, because you were going to loose weight 5 years ago. You know that top is too big and you’ll never get it altered. Get out of here!!

Get a large trash bag and toss it all in. Nope, its not going to the garbage. There are tons of people that need these things. We just dealt with hurricanes Harvey and Irma. Do a good deed and donate. jakob-owens-91197onur-bahcivancilar-140823.jpg

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Underwire Bra Issues

Are any of you ladies having bra issues? I delayed this blog post for a while, because I really didn’t know where to begin. Although I’m still not sure, I don’t want to postpone my thoughts any longer. If you’re reading this you’re more likely a lady that has had some issues with bras over the years as well.

Dating back when I first started wearing bras. I was around ( 9) years old. I remember how annoying it was to wear. Then they looked more like sport bras where I simply stuck my head through the large opening and place my arms through the side openings. Its was so annoying! They itched, rubbed and always felt constricting. Do you remember that?  When I became a teen I moved to a bra with more support. The bra actually had cup sizes. Anytime I was in class it would rise with the slightest arm raise. My bra would always become lopped sided. I’d always think if I were a boy; I wouldn’t have to go through this. I’d only get jealous of boys during the summer, when they could just rip off their shirts in public and mow the lawn. If I was hot, I had to drink cold water. The shirt had to stay on. How unfair was that! LOL

Eventually I heard this talk about unwire. I asked my mom if she could buy  one for me to see if it would help with my rising problems. She did and it helped a bunch.  However, no  one warned me about the metal leaving bruises and marks under the breast. Perhaps I’m wearing them too tight. I’d loosen the shoulder straps and the band. In most cases it didn’t help. It’s something you get use to as a girl.

Once I became an adult, I realized the more the bra cost, the better the padding over the wire.  It didn’t fix the comfort, but it was padded much better. There was a difference in the quality as well.  The bra would fit the shoulders and not the back or vice versus. I have never had the best of both worlds. A few years ago I went to a lingerie boutique by the name of LiviRae. It’s in Kennesaw, Georgia. They’ve had a docuseries on Lifetime called Double Divas. They are best friends Molly Hopkins and Cynthia Decker. They were known as the ” bra whisperer .”The first episode was January 10, 2013 – September 24, 2013. Molly always tried finding her customers the perfect fit and Cynthia created sexy garments . They traveled across the globe to fittings and bridal shows and other related events.

One day I made it a girls day with my daughter. We went to get fitted for bras together at LiviRae’s.  I forgot to mention they named the boutique after  their daughters Olivia and Rainey. I thought this was cute since they are best friends.  As I mentioned my daughter and I went to a bra fitting. It was so exciting! There were women everywhere waiting to get fitted for the perfect bra. I felt hopeful, because the Double Divas had large breast and I thought surely they can help me. I’m only a  B cup….or a C. Who knows! It was weird for my daughter to get fitted with me. They put us in the same dressing room. Whenever I got fitted she’d close her eyes. I remember her saying, ” ewww I don’t want to see my mom.” They asked her if she’d like to go in a separate room, but she chose to stay because the wait was an hour. She’d have to get back out their with the general population and wait another hour.  After our fitting , they told me I’ve been wearing the wrong bra for 100 years! They didn’t really say it that way. It is was my comprehension after we all laughed so much about it. In their words, ” you should be wearing a 32D.” What! I was confused.  The bra was a little on the pricey side. They ranged from $45 – $70. That was  the  price range for the bras I tried on.  I think they had some much higher. The one I tried on is the actually one I could purchase. I purchased one for $45.00. I don’t recall what I paid for my daughters. I bought it, because it is the first time a cup size actually fit me. However, I didn’t realize until after a few wears that the band was uncomfortable . I kept the bra, but don’t wear it often.  As I mentioned earlier, I’ve always been able to accomplish one without the other. If the bad fits, the cups or too big and the shoulder straps fall off.  I’m a chick and I’ve always had this chick issue. I’ve learned to accept it.

Bra sizes can be confusing. The number is the band size.  The letter is your cup size. If you choose the wrong band size, your back can begin to ache and leave impressions in your skin. This could mean it’s too tight . If you choose the wrong cup size, your breast are lost and sagging around. The bra hangs and your shoulder straps fall. Lovely!!

When most women get home from a long day; the bra is the first thing to go! I’m the same. I work from home. Guess what?  No bra! I’m not sure what to do because bras are just uncomfortable . Lately I’ve had issues with bruising. It’s frustrating. Now I’m thinking about not buying anymore bras with under wire. I’ve read and heard the metal can compress breast tissue and cause benign tumors. In general as you get older everything starts to become more bothersome. Lately bras have been more of an issue than ever.

Where should I go to try another bra? Have any of you gotten a custom fit? Thats what I thought I got at LiviRae’s, but they were off the shelf. I’m thinking  more like someone making my bras for me. I’m going to do some research and get back with you on it. In the meantime I’m going to try Intimates. They offer bra fittings as well. If any of you thought about telling me about Victoria Secret . Nope! It’s a big box store and they just want to sell you anything there. I’ve tried them. Besides  they seem to be more interested in PINK.  The Pink line appeals more to young girls around ( 9) years and up.  I have woman problems.

As of late, I went crawling back to the ugly rubbery sports bra. These type of bras you see pictured have not been my best friend.  The sports bras aren’t as bad as I thought. They’ve been a bit more comfortable and I’m not worrying too much about how they look. Another characteristic of an older woman . Comfort before cuteness. Wow! I really can’t believe I said that, but my breast health is extremely important. Nubian-Skin-Promo-3

Do Sunflowers Always Face The Sun ?

I love sunflower season. Therefore, it wouldn’t be right to skip the subject. If you are reading this as seeing the title, you’re probably a sunflower lover too.

I was traveling down the highway and noticed this big brush of what looks like weeds. As I got closer, I realized there were sunflowers in the mixture of the weeds and some other type of colorful flowers. There were so many sunflowers it caught my attention for a while. I kept imagining myself photographing  it and creating wall art. I thought about about the photograph each time I passed the brush in the median on the rode.

As a photographer whenever I continue to have day dreams about a subject. I have to create the image. I’ve stopped on many roads to capture a scene and this isn’t any different for me.

Now, I’m walking down the road with my camera on hand. I use to wonder what passerby’s  thought of me, but ask me do I care now. It’s probably my maturity level. At some point a lady starts not to care what everyone thinks…hehe  It was exciting to finally photograph this brush of flowers. I can’t photograph your typical flower shot front on. No, not me.

As I created a few images I pondered over why all of the sunflowers were pointing in the same direction. Is it because it is peak season for sunflowers in Georgia right now? What is this about they always point east? I took out my iPhone and checked the compass. Wow! They are pointing east. Some people say they face the sun. I know that isn’t true because the sun is behind them sometimes.

It’s true it is peak season and they will bloom until the early fall. They are drought tolerant, because of their extensive root system. You never see anyone out on the roads watering sunflowers. Its an easy low maintenance  flower. This means if I kill a sunflower, I need to hang up the gardening tools.

I hear too many myths

about them facing east at sunrise and west at sunset. I have not found anything to support this statement . Therefore, I will leave this along. They are just beautiful , low maintenance and often times the flower heads are pointing in the same direction.

A Mens Capsule Wardrobe

I’m doing a series of videos on mens capsule wardrobe on Youtube. You should really check me out ! I’m starting out really slow, but I’m warming up to some great content. The first video on the subject is about my favorite look out of every occasion, is the evening look. It’s just something about a man in a suit! Yeah, I know I’m hitched and all, but I’m speaking in general.

A capsule wardrobe is a collection of a few essentials that never go out of style.  The shirts, slacks, jackets and shoes. It’s the must haves in a mans closet  that should be obtained  to build around the non essentials.

I won’t go into much detail here.   check me out here on my channel and see what I have to say. I’d love for you to stop by and say hello. Leave a message in the comment section to inform me you are one of my wonderful beauties from my blog. I’d love to hear from you or read from you there. Hehehe…jason-briscoe-156643.jpg

Organic vs. Regular Apples

At some point you really have to do your own research. I’ve always heard an apple a day will keep the doctor away. Did anyone ever specify if a regular apple or an organic apple mattered?

Apples contain nutrients that are friendly to the skin. The benefits of eating apples include antioxidants ,  fiber, vitamin c and potassium. According to experts the peel of the apple contains anti growth fighting activities against cancer. It’s weird there isn’t a cure for cancer, but somehow experts no exactly what to eat to help prevent it. Huh…

Have you noticed the shiny pretty apples that has a longer shelf life than the dull apples? They are usually filled with pesticides to coat the exterior of the fruit. However, that pesticide enters the apple. This means you’re ingesting pesticide. By which you are trying to eat healthy. How backwards is this? Guess what? According to experts pesticides cause cancer.

Buy the ugly dry dull apples. No, they don’t last long on the shelf. They aren’t meant to be a display on your kitchen. Eat them. Get a quality apple slicer, because some are flimsy and will break after a few uses.  It’s not just the dull apples, make sure they are organic.

Things you can eat to include apples in your diet:

  1. If you eat toast, eggs,   chicken apple sausage with apples slices
  2. Peanut butter and apples slices for snack
  3. Wheat crackers, dairy free cheese and apple slices
  4. Oatmeal with apple slices
  5. Pancakes and apple slices…you get the gist

Eat organic apples. A healthy diet begins with fruits and veggies. I hope you love my pictures. I love photography and I always try to use my images for every blog. untitled-4658-1.jpg

 

The Boxy Cable Knit Sweater

Clothing should be a means to make you look and feel great. Weather you realize it or not, there are some mistakes you may be making. Its nice to have knowledge of the latest fashions, but everything you see in the magazines isn’t for everyone. Also be aware some things aren’t for anyone. Have you seen pieces such as that? it makes you wonder what the designer was thinking.

Since fall is creeping our way, lets look at the cable knit sweater. Its heavy, and admittedly it does the job to keep me warm. However, it can be one of the most strangest looking sweaters when worn. What happen to my waistline? It disappeared in the sweater. The cable knit is the most frumpy sweater one can wear for sure. Look at it paired with my Ann Taylor A-line skirt. The contrast is beautiful , but the look, not so much!

The sweater needs to fit tighter down the side of the seams.  It would have worked if it were lose fitting without the elastic at the hemline. Perhaps it would look nice with slits on each side of the sweater. This would cause it to drape the skirt more. This is too heavy of a sweater , it’s weighing me down. The sweater is a size small, but you’d never know by the fit. Never forget the female shape when choosing a sweater.  Remember quality over quantity. Choose your clothes wisely. They should always look flattering to your figure. untitled-1477

Keeping Your Social Media Platform Updated Can Be A full-time Job.

Apparently, there has been a huge internet penetration in the country.  Yes, Facebook is still the most popular network.  I’m not much of a fan of Facebook, but who asked me. The platforms that keep viewers engaged in an instant such as, Instagram , Twitter and the newest  platform Snapchat are climbing the charts. This is because we live in an instant society where everyone wants the quick and dirty fast!

Recently I started a brand new Youtube channel. Currently I only have 20 subscribers, but I manage my channel as if I have 20 million subscribers. It is humbling to me. My channel is more about who I am. As a wife and mother, it is easy for me to lose my soul . I have spent a large part of my life being a wife and mother. Its imperative to spend time enjoying some things I love. My channel also exemplifies  my sense of humor and how much of a fashionista  and germaphobe I am. You’ll see that I love iconic designer bags and timeless clothing pieces.

My latest video is on a seemingly very popular topic on Youtube for anyone that loves purses.  What’s In My Bag.  This is one of many videos to come. My goal is to gain an audience who appreciates positiveness and promotes self love.  I hope you can join me on my channelScreen Shot 2017-07-22 at 7.08.43 PM

Channel : It’s My Life

 

25 Reasons why I Love the Fall Season

Before you know it fall will be upon us! The days will get shorter and the mornings will get cooler.

Here are more reasons why I like Fall:

  1. Cool nights
  2. Drinking apple cider
  3. Hot chocolate ( dairy free)
  4. Baking pumpkin pie
  5. Wearing knee socks
  6. Wearing tights
  7. The leaves changing into beautiful colors
  8. Snuggling with love ones
  9. Fall decorations
  10. Retailers stock the shelves with fall seasonal items
  11. Mountain biking
  12. Scenic drive
  13. Go pumpkin picking
  14. Photographing autumn
  15. Rock climbing
  16. Apple picking
  17. Host a bonfire
  18. The fashion world flourishes
  19. The autumn smells permeate the air
  20. Football season
  21. Holiday movies
  22. Mall decorations
  23. Family gatherings
  24. Holidays
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Regain A Positive Identity

Let me start from the least important to the most important factors.

1. Inspire others:

If you radiate positivity and happiness to others, you’ll internalize it. It will naturally become who you are. If you follow me on Instagram @ daralynn_l  I exemplify how it has become apart of me.

2. Seek an expert:

If you are truly unhappy with yourself, a Psychologist or therapist may be able to help you work towards self love.

3. Get help from a close friend:

A real friend will tell you the truth . They see things inside of you, that you can’t readily see as you are in the moment of your feelings. Ask them if they’ve ever felt the way you do. If so, how did they handle the concern.

4. Always surround yourself with positive people:

It helps to be around people that will be you up. They are your biggest cheerleaders. They think you’re an awesome and talented person.

5. Become social : 

Get interested in others. It takes the focus away from yourself. Do this by being genuine and honest. Some people can detect a fake a mile away. Celebrate other peoples accomplishments such as a new baby, new house,  promotions, marriages or test scores. In turn others will unconsciously do the same for you. You don’t want to boast about yourself and become misinterpreted as a narcissist.

6. Be intrinsically motivated: 

Being able to rely less on others for praises or financial gain in order to achieve your goals.  Be persistent and take chances. Involve yourself in activities that make you feel alive and complete. Like me, I enjoy building a beautiful portfolio of a woman. It makes me feel good, to show her what she’s missing- a gorgeous woman in front of my lens.

7. Create attainable goals: 

The first thing to do is fix what you can change. It doesn’t matter if it’s directly for you or not. If it’s bothersome work on it. Having goals increases happiness.  This will help you progress to your true self. I have a financial goal this year. I wrote down the plan and the goal on how I will achieve it.  Let go of what you can’t change.  For instance your height,  ethnicity  or  your family upbringing.

8. Build your character: 

Donate your money or time to a charity. This helps you feel like you are giving back. There are places to donate clothes to ( for instance) a women’s shelter. The women may be getting shaped up to get back into the work force, but they don’t have any business attire. You may have tons of nice business casual clothes to donate. It can put a smile on the recipients and face and yours too.

9. Have respect for yourself:

Treat yourself well and not allow anyone to treat you like old garbage. Get enough rest, drink plenty of water. This is how you respect health. Choose your clothes wisely according to your body type and the occasion . Putting time into your wardrobe says a lot about how you feel about your appearance. This is widely connected to self love.

10. Have a little positive talk with yourself:

If it will help, post positive affirmations around the house. Take selfies and positive them on Instagram with positive messages. This removes anxiety, negative emotions and increases confidence. If you didn’t pass a test. Tell yourself it’s ok. Now you know what to expect when you take it again.

Don’t allow small mistakes effect your overall health and identity. untitled-1606-2_pp

You’re awesome !

 

 

Fashion Fair Cosmetics Will Need to Appeal to a Younger Audience

I don’t wear makeup everyday. It should be against the law to not wear it on special days, such as weddings and professional photos. I don’t care if it’s a dang family photo, put some makeup on.

Ok, I’m calm. I got that off of my chest. When I was a teenager. If I remember correctly I was in the tenth grade. That would make me about …ummm I was Fifteen  years of age. I graduate from high school at the age of seventeen. The first thing my mom allowed me to wear was lipstick. She didn’t allow a full face of makeup, but I don’t think I was interested in a full face. Lips and eyes is all I liked. I used the envelop a bit and begged to wear eye liner. I moved to eyeliner in the eleventh grade.

My mom introduced me to Fashion Fair cosmetics. It was a strictly created for women of color back in the day. It was founded in 1973. Mom took me to the mall and I tried on a few creamy lipsticks and fell in love with chocolate raspberry . It is a color that was long lasting, long before  so – called long lasting shades were created. It is a pink rather loud pink. It isn’t pale frosty pink or too red. I wore that lipstick with everything. I always received compliments whenever I would wear it.

The issue today: Fashion Fair ( FF) is disappearing from department stores. I’ve search and it is difficult to find a FF counter. Once I found it at Belk and I was elated. However, I was saddened by how no one ever came to the counter to help me. The FF counter didn’t have one soul attending to it. As I looked around the cosmetics department , other associates would look off when I tried to get their attention. Another thing that concerned me is the counter wasn’t as flattering as it’s predecessors. It was an embarrassment to the brand. I’ve always supported FF. It was a top seller when I was a teen and it was an awesome product.

The problem is teens think of FF as old lady makeup. Teens today think of makeup, more than likely they will look at NYX, LO’real, Too Faced, Rimmel, Urban Decay, Tarte, NARS & ELF to name a few. You know that I’m right. I see you nodding your head. Well, in my head you are.

Did you know Fashion Fair is an extension of Jet Magazine. Jet’s last subscription was in 2014, due to loss in revenue. They are looking into re branding. They’ve started by changing the pink compacts to a bronze more hip color. It doesn’t stop there. The website has received a facelift as well. Soon I expect to see more ads for FF. Although I’m one person, that is what it takes. At least one to start a movement. I believe in the brand. I only have one Youtube video, showing off my nearly used chocolate raspberry lipstick . I’ll be creating more videos on FF cosmetics. I can’t forget about our history together. Eventually I used the foundation, and lipstick.

Fashion Fair, is in need of the younger generation. Bring life back to FF, please. Frankly no one wants to see me wear Fashion Fair in an ad. I came from the times when it was hot to have a pink FF compact in my purse. I remember that little mirror. I glide on my chocolate raspberry lipstick. Child, I thought I was cute….hehe

This a current selfie shot of me at 48 years young. I have on chocolate raspberry lipstick, by Fashion Fair. Who says brown skin can’t wear pink?untitled-1500