10. Reasons Why You Can’t Be Anything You Want To Be.

As a child I had high hopes for my future. At nine years of age, I knew I wanted to be a photographer . Then later ( Young adult) in my life I added midwifery to the list as well. My love for photography is steadfast. There isn’t a moment I don’t think about how I can turn something into an art form from a photo. I see things differently when I look at it.   Experts say that people like me are right brained. I’m creative and definitely intuitive.

As for being a midwife.  I never became one, but I tried by enrolling in college and studying until 3:00 in the morning.   The courses were not so bad. I scored very high in subjects such as,  anatomy, English and science.  The not- so -easy stuff to most people. However, my math scores …lets just say there wasn’t a score board for me. Often times my scores were ( F t) . Have you ever heard of F plus? That was me.  I wanted so much to be a midwife, because I found the reproductive system highly interesting. My goals were to take my photography skills and integrate it with midwifery. Clever huh? Despite how much I tried it didn’t happen. I tried for over 2 years in college, until I was kicked out of college after academic probation.  No matter how great my other classes were going, I needed to pass them all.  Yes, I could have tried at a later time in life, but life got in the way, got married, had children, grew older and the math side of my brain is completely hopeless.  The math side of my  brain didn’t shut down. It never opened.  I have a reason for my math skills being so low, but thats another blog.

Anywho, my passion for photography is alive and well today. I get the pleasure to photograph women  in all situations. However, I do not like nude photography. There is a lot more beauty and appeal in clothes. My genre  is beauty and weddings. I’ll find the beauty in any woman and catch it with my lens!   I don’t like basic stare( cheese photos) at the camera type images. Although there are times when that type of photography is needed. Such as a family photo or product shot.  I’m always thinking the possibility of the photo becoming wall art.

I’m not where I want to be in the field of photography . I’d love it if I got to shoot more weddings and beauty images.  It would be a plus be able to have more images framed and hung on the walls of my customers. I’ve been working on my home gallery for years.  A dream differed !

Who says you can be anything you want to be? It’s the classic phrase every parent has probably said. There are so many obstacles that can get in the way.

  1. Health
  2. Job
  3. Family members
  4. Spouse
  5. Yourself
  6. Lack opportunities
  7. Knowledge
  8. Money
  9. Friends
  10. Tools

 

I can’t be anything I want to be – but I can be a lot more of who I am already ? A great photographer!sweet-ice-cream-photography-91777.jpg

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Wearing A Used Wedding Gown: Is it Settling For Less?

lettwedding-22.jpglettwedding-162.jpgSo you’re getting married. You’ve dreamt of this day since you were 10 years old. They way your gown will look and the location of the  venue.  Oh! lets not forget about the amazing lucky guy. You’re the apple of his eye. I see you smiling in my mind. This is you isn’t it?  Yes , girl you have your hair in a beautiful updo, from a photo you cut out from a magazine 10 years ago. I know, I know.

Now things have gotten real. You’ve priced venues, flowers, cakes, decorations and this doesn’t include the honeymoon or let alone the gown.  The gown is a biggie. I’ve  always teased brides – to – be when saying no one cares or remembers what the groom had on. However, everyone will remembered the gown. It’s 90% true,  please groom; don’t test your bride. You need to look dapper. You’re part of the package.

Is there anything wrong with a used wedding gown?

It depends on who you ask. It isn’t always about if a bride can afford a new one or not. Many times it has much to do with personality type. If you’re the type who couldn’t dream of wearing a gently used wedding  gown, simply because it is much more cost effective; you aren’t going to do it.  The average cost of a wedding gown is $1,400.00, but as you probably know it can soar as high as $12,000.00 Sometimes its tough to choose a discounted gown when your heart is set on a particular style. It can be daunting to search all over the world for a certain style and get it for a reasonable price. Sometimes you want to go all out for ( you hope) this once in a lifetime occasion.  So you just buy retail. Also brides may want to experience the whole bride feeling which includes shopping for a gown the traditional way from the large retailers. Standing on a platform and modeling for the entire shop. There is no right or wrong.

When buying gently used or pre- owned, you want to make sure you know your key measurements.  Getting the right fit can be a key element since the previous bride already tailored it  to her body.  I recommend you buy up in size and have a seamstress create a custom fit. Make sure you have time to try it on and  examine the  gown  thoruoghly before purchase. Normally there isn’t a return policy on used gowns. This means you’re stuck with the dress after purchase. Look for signs of wear near the arm pits and hem line. If they look great then your probably all set to purchase. Gently used gowns will run about $300.00 – $1,000.00 .  Try small businesses that sell wedding gowns. Often times they operate a full bridal salon from the basement of their own home or have an online store. You’ll have a beautiful gown without breaking the bank.

Congratulations on your big day!

 

 

Motherhood: The Bond Between A Mother And Son.

When I found out I was having a boy 29 years ago, I was deeply worried. I thought how can I teach a boy, things that only a man would know? I was close to my dad and felt I would rely on my dad a lot for guidance on raising a son. Especially potty training . Besides I never owned a weiner gun. Someone needed to show me, how to show him; where to aim it in the toilet.  We had to learn so much together.

It was easy in the beginning. Infant boys and infant girls have the same needs. Love and attention. I did that, but I made sure I went the extra mile. As he grew older I became more frighten that I would not be able to guide and teach him. I didn’t want to baby him too much, but didn’t want to seem distant as well. Eventually I learned the happy medium. Don’t call him pet names in public, don’t caress his face and say that I love him around his friends and don’t ever sit with him in the movies. I had it all down!

I hated taking him to the barber shop. As expected the barber is filled with men. It was tough finding a good reliable barber. I went through many before I found one that didn’t watch porn in front of kids, curse, speaking down on women and talk about who they had last night. I’d find myself closing his eyes and ears and sometimes walking out. I could have gotten his uncles to take him to get hair cuts, but I was his mom. When he was born I vowed to God I’d be the best mom I could be. Eventually I found a good respectable barber. He was like a grandpa.

Once  he became an adult something changed. The space he desired as a teen didn’t seem as desirable anymore to him. He’d ask when is our next lunch date, or when or we going for a drive, by the way when can we just hang out on the couch and talk. Wow! what happened? I thought I was” too mommy” for him. Although the space hurt my heart just a little bit, I knew it was healthy for him to be his own man.

I’ve taught him all the basic things, clean your room, always groom and never play with a woman’s emotions. I’d always say, remember you have a sister and a mother. Our bodies and souls are attached to feelings. Then there are the funny times. Teaching him to ride a bike and drive a car. Watching him graduate from high school and college with my big box of tissue. Oh yeah! I cry when I’m happy and sad. I’m a big cry baby. The milestones that once seemed far fetched and scary. It literally flashed before my eyes.

I worked up so much misery in my head . Perhaps I’m just feeling lucky. With Mother’s Day around the corner. I wanted to jumpstart the joys and memories of motherhood, by expressing my love for my wonderful son. He’s more than I could have imagined. He protective, loving, kind and talented. As soon as he learned to write he could draw. He’s also bilingual. English / Spanish. By which he taught himself Spanish as a kid for the fun of it.  He loves eating healthy and working out. As a kid he was bullied for being skinny, quiet and different.

Raising a son wasn’t too bad. I don’t know why I worried so much. He’s know longer my skinny little boy. He is a full fledged intellectual man. I’m a proud mama whom still calls him pet names behind closed doors. untitled-1756-1

Petite And Being Fit

Many people think you have to be overweight to have fitness issues. The truth of the matter is anyone can have problem areas or something about their body they wish to improve. In this blog I’m not talking about someone with body image issues or low self esteem . Thats a different blog.

This blog is more about getting back into shape. Although I’ve never stopped working out on some level; I once worked out religiously.  I had a schedule. Today is yoga, tomorrow is weights, and so forth. What happened ? I’ll tell you what happened in a nutshell. In order: I fell on some photography equipment ( I’m a photographer) during a session. I injured my knee. My knee hasn’t been the same since, then later my daddy died. Yes, I said my daddy. I’m an adult, but that was my daddy. After those two episodes I couldn’t get back to life. My dad was my world. The best man that God has ever put before me.

Here I am still blessed despite. It is a wonderful thing to be a size 2 at 48 years old. No, I’m not bragging at all. It truly is a blessing. Fortunately I’ve never been a large person. My entire life I’ve worn a size zero ( 0) until I got in to my 30’s. Now I’m happy to say I’m the ideal weight  for my height and age. This is according to my doctor.  The only thing desire the most is to tone up.   I don’t hate the way I look, I know I can use some improvement . However, I’m not conceded by the slightest.

I love taking pictures of myself , because pictures are one of the most endearing things to me. To have a piece of life frozen in time is priceless. I can never get it back once the day is gone, but I preserved it on film or digital. Back to this picture that gave me the ah ha moment. I had been complaining to myself regarding getting my legs  into shape, but it didn’t dawn on me, just how much until I took this selfie.

This was taken 1 day ago.  So I’m not cheating with an old photo. LOLuntitled-1736-1There isn’t anything wrong with my legs. They work great. Besides these are the legs God assigned to me. I want to be stronger, toned and have  nice shaped legs. I am committing to do just that.  Before  I really do extensive work outs with my legs, I’m going to pay a doctor another visit . I want to check on my left knee for advice on what type of exercise to perform based on my issue with my knee. The problem is it will dislocate sometimes. I’ll find myself bent over on the floor crying and popping in back into place. After this happens it’s sore for a month. Then that leads me to another workout setback.

Lastly, I want to say don’t beat up on yourselves too bad ladies and gents.  Take each day at a time. Work on baby steps. I started by just walking a few times a week for 1 hour. I’ve noticed a change in my endurance and strength already. You can do it too! Whatever it is you want to improve on yourself go for it! Don’t look at celebrities, or anyone else in magazines, social media or TV as the parameter for what is acceptable as beauty and fit. You have to be your own kind of beautiful!

Ingredients to Make the Number 1 Easter Appetizer.

Easter is tomorrow so I wanted to bring you this blog before I’m too late.

When spring has sprung there isn’t anything better than appetizers.  The first to kick off spring is deviled eggs.   Your  family and friends will love you for this simple dish.  They’re so many deviled egg recipes, but I like to keep it simple. Some traditions should be left untouched.

Things you’ll need:

Eggs

Cooking pot

Sugar

mayonaise

paprika ( garnish)

fork, or meat masher, spoon and knife

While the others are obvious , the spoon and butter knife is used to scoop the yolk to insert in the eggs. The Flat side of the knife is used to push the yolk onto the egg. This is the way to go if you don’t have a piping bag or sandwich bag to pipe the yolk. Besides the piping bag is a water of time of there are going to be tons of toppings on it. Such as capers, bacon…things that hide the piped look. I’d also like to add spooning the yolk saves time as well. If presentation is imperative I’d suggest you pipe the yolk.

 

My family and I have dinner together every Sunday. It’s not always the so -called Sunday dinner. We can have tacos and rice as long as we spend one day a week together. I loved this as a child. Now we have to forbid electronic devices at the table and focus solely on one another . I look forward to it every week.

Don’t forget to give the eggs an ice bath to prevent over cooked eggs.

Happy Easter!

Don’t Have Your Wedding Without Those Lashes.

 

 

Have you ever heard someone say, If you have on jeans with holes  and a T-shirt, but your hair is done; you look good? Your hair moved the attention away from how  you’re dressed down you look. Really, no one noticed.

That stands for eyelashes as well. We know they are fake. Besides you’re not trying to fool anyone.  You want to look alive and what better to do it then with faux lashes on your wedding day.

Ok, we’ll be the first to admit that faux eyelashes can be a little intimidating. They’re difficult  to put on the first ten times, they seem a bit dramatic when you’re not used to them — and  they may seem to obscure  your eye sight if you aren’t use to them. Bare in mind beauty, not only includes pain, but discomfort sometimes. It’s just the way it is when you are a girl.

Get that face done, ( I hate saying beat)  it’s your special day.  Your photos will be proof you took time to enhance your beauty. The lashes instantly make you look glamorous, they don’t clump like mascara and they’re easy to remove.  Last but not least , they’re perfect for emotional times. They’ll withstand the tears. All the makeup in the world doesn’t look complete unless you have on those gorgeous falsies. It’s like mowing the lawn and forgetting to edge. Imagine it’s your wedding day. The lashes will cut the time it takes to make you look prettier. So many things can go wrong on your day. Don’t allow being late become one of them.

Lashes come in different material:

It depends on your budget and what you’re willing to spend. The most realistic are human and mink. The mink lashes are pricey. They can cost $17.00 from Mac to $35.00 from Velour lashes. You can buy a pair of human hair lashes for $5.00 at Walgreens .

False Lashes Are Healthy :

I know you’re thinking  I’m crazy.  It’s true, falsies are healthier than mascara. Falsies don’t help them grow, but they don’t disturb your lashes.  Mascara causes lashes to become brittle and weak. All of that rough housing to take off the mascara the evening after your wedding is a pain.  Most brides opt to leave it on and wake up with it all over their  pillow.

Wedding photo: Angelita Espara

Lashes on bride: Mac

Lashes Pictured: Target

 

Add that special touch to your day.  You’ll look and feel so gorgeous!

Cellphone Pictures Can Ruin A Brides Day.

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You should have a completely unplugged wedding. There shouldn’t be anyone with an electronic device with the exception of the hired photographers/ Videographers.

Top  10 reasons why the bride and groom shouldn’t allow camera phones, iPads and any  camera devices at the wedding:

1. Prevent ceremony from starting on time.

2. It can upset the bride

3. Guest will get in the way of the photographers job

4. The bride and groom prefers control over what is posted for the world to see

5. The wedding photos are out before the professional photographer can get them approved and posted

6. The photos didn’t provide a good depiction of the wedding

7. The photographers prefers a differentiation  between guest photos and pro photos

8. It disrupts the ceremony

9. Can upset people who weren’t invited to the wedding

10. The bride and groom would like to be the first see their wedding photos

 

 

Wedding Photos Don’t Have to be Boring.

Do wedding photos have to be so blah? I guess it depends on the personality of the bride and groom. It’s doesn’t have to be that classic church pulpit lineup. Sure, get all of the traditional couples shots. Get the ring shot, the bouquet and the first look to name a few.

Now get outside and have some fun. As a photographer you want to look for unusual places to shoot. Theses places are picturesque  and will bring attention to your album or wall images. IMG_2310

Be playful and have fun. This is supposed to be one of the happiest days of your life. You’ve planned this event a year in advance and now it’s time to shine.

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A night image is awesome! You have the lighting from the skyscrapers and the beautiful hues. All eyes are on you!

Break the Late Night Munchies

Eating late night snacks is a bad habit for many people. It’s exactly what I said a habit. Motivational and self help experts like Tony Robbins and Zig Ziglar have said it takes 21 days to break a bad habit.

Chances are, you satisfied your hunger at dinner, so these late-night munchies are not about being hungry. It’s a habit developed from , boredom, stress, or fatigue. No matter what the cause, eating at night usually leads to overeating . If you eat more calories at times of day when you’re not active, you’re likely to gain weight.

Favorite food munchies:

Ice cream, potato chips, cookies, candy, donuts and latte’s with a lot of sugar.

Sweet solution:

* Resolve not to eat late in the day or after dinner.
* Distract yourself — curl up to a good book
* Eat  a handful of veggies
* Increase the fiber in your diet-  Try eating beans to keep you feeling full.
* Increase the protein in your dinner

* Always eat in the kitchen or dining room, this helps curb “eating amnesia,” that mindless munching in the bed
* Eat slowly and savor the taste of your food. Give yourself 15 to 20 minutes for your brain to get the signal that you have had enough.
* Eat breakfast every morning
*Drink plenty of water. Not only will it help you stay hydrated, it will give you something to do with your hands and mouth. Try not to drink after 6pm unless you want to sit by the potty all night. untitled-4428-1

Black Workout Clothes can Steal Your Stamina.

Most people choose to wear black work out clothes. Especially men it is a safe choice. Black workout clothes can camouflage sweat stains too. Yuk! However, did you know black workout clothes has a lower motivation rate? Don’t get me wrong everyone looks great in black. Larger people will look much slender and smaller people will lose their shape in all of that black.

Black  is what people wear to funerals. Try getting more vibrant colors. They have a tendency to motivate you to go to the gym or be seen outside working out. If you look good you’ll want to workout!

Wear what works for your body type:

Those who are not confident about their body images should look for workout clothes that provide good coverage. A short-sleeved shirt and mid-thigh-length shorts with a relaxed (but not oversized) fit are a good choice for men and women. Heavier people may experience leg chafing while working out, but wearing compression or bicycle-type shorts under a looser pair of shorts will eliminate this problem. You can wear the bikers in a nice bright color under the (black) lose fitting shorts. Go against the grain a little. It will make you feel good!

After all, workout clothes serve both a practical and a psychological purpose. “On a practical level, you need special workout clothes simply because street clothes are either too constricting,  they aren’t made from breathable fibers, but psychologically, you need special workout gear to convince yourself it’s time to work out. Since you have to get sweaty and dirty, you may as well look good. untitled-4426-1