Who I am and Why I’m Here.

I was born and raised in Atlanta, Georgia, with both of my biological parents. I have two brothers  that are younger than I am. Yet somehow I’m still considered the baby. May be because I’m female. Yes, I think that’s what one of my brothers told me.

At the age of nine years of age I grew up loving and fixated on a camera and it’s components. Not only did I want to learn how to shoot a 35mm film camera, I needed to know how the camera worked technically to create images. As a teen, I became the appointed family photographer . There wasn’t anything I wouldn’t shoot if I thought it would leave a piece of history.

Now that I’m older, not only do I want to photograph women, of all races, sizes and ages to promote self love.  I want to be more of a positive advocate for women.  In nearly all facets of my life I have experienced women with low self esteem and noticed how females aren’t as kind to one another as they should.  I want to be the face of self love and positiveness to all women.

You’ll find blogs regarding healthy eating, self love, beauty tips, product reviews and some lifestyle as well. Hopefully some of my blogs will reflect that I’m human and I share  challenges sometimes. I’m not just a face behind a computer. Vibe with me. Share and leave comments. I would love that.

While I enjoy blogging on various topics of interest. My main focus is the lovely women  over 40. When your a woman that’s over 40, you face new challenges in life. There’s how society views women over 40, health challenges and the desire to feel  accepted and  beautiful as your body changes.

Ageless Beauty: As We Get Older Our Skin Becomes Dry




Yes, You Need To Wash Your New Undies.

I won’t kid around with you, I hadn’t always thought this way. As a child until I was a young adult. I’d always put the undies on without washing them. My philosophy then,” if they are new; they’re clean.” Well that’s partially true. New undies should be washed before you wear them. It isn’t always about them being new.  They should be clean, they are new. Right? Let’s take this a step further.

Here are reasons why you should wash your new undies before you wear them:

  1. Women try on underwear before they purchase them
  2. The dyes can transfer to your skin   ( Especially dark or bright)
  3. Formaldehyde is found in fabrics
  4. So many people have touched them with their bare hands ( The factory workers…ect.)
  5. The paper liner may not be fresh
  6. Menstrual blood may be present
  7. Chemicals used to make the undies ( There are 8,000 chemicals used)
  8. Germs can live on cotton from a few minutes to 6 months
  9. Cotton is sprayed with pesticides
  10. Coated with fire retardants for transport

Have you ever gone shopping and felt sick  a few days afterwards?  It can come from a women with staphylococcus ( Stomach flu) , which can hang around in a persons body a few days after vomiting and diarrhea is over. For instance the woman feels better and now she’s gone shopping. Guess what! She tried on the undies that you ended up buying.

I hope I made you think the next time you decide to wear, before you wash. It’s certainly changed me.

Wash Before You Wear
Photo by: Daralynn

Don’t Use Hair Extension Glue On Your Eyelids.

Every since my wedding photos were taken, I have gotten so deep into eyelashes. When I tell you it completes the look, I mean that literally. There isn’t anything that can take the place of  beauty enhanced eyes! I don’t mean your eyeballs. No, leave them alone. I don’t want you messing with those. You need to see. Right?

Ok where do I start with this exciting blog. See, I hate when I get too excited to write, because I began to fumble my thoughts. I just want to hurry and get the words on paper. Help me Father! Ok, Ok, here we go. As I get deeper into all types of eyelash extensions, I began to do research on different types of adhesives to use. one type doesn’t fit all for sure. There is white, clear and black adhesive . I’m not sure why anyone would want the glue to cure to a white finish, but it’s yours for the taking. There are so many brands. Revlon, Duo and Kiss and Bella Lash to name a few. They are formulated  specifically  to use on the eyelids.  There are some adhesives on the market for sensitive eyes.

This is great but this blog is more about using hair extension glue on your eyelids. Is it safe? I’ve read so many blogs, forums and comments on social media regarding it’s safety simply because they’ve used it for before and it didn’t have an adverse effect on them. But does it mean it’s safe because you didn’t noticeably have any effects? It’s like smoking a cigarette and saying it didn’t bother you.

My take on it  is, hair bonding glue is for hair and eyelash glue is for the eyes, for a reason.  For instance, Salon Pro 30 seconds hair bonding glue, states in the  ingredients: Do not use on hair that is damaged. Keep out of reach of children. Keep out of eyes, if contact occurs, wash thoroughly with water. Ingredients: latex, water (aqua), sodium polyacrylate, dimethicone, quaternium-15, ammonium hydroxide, fragrance (parfum), may contain CL77262422.  Do you know what CL77262422 is?  It is chlorpyrifos which is used in pesticides.  Possible side effects:  Mild poisoning can result in eye watering, increased saliva and sweating, nausea and headache. Moreover, it may lead to muscle spasms or weakness, vomiting or diarrhea and impaired vision. Symptoms of severe poisoning include seizures, unconsciousness, paralysis, and suffocation from lung failure.Why would you want that near your eyes? No adhesive is meant to put directly in your eyes, but with something used near your eyes, it could possibly get in your eyes.  Plus when removing your falsies one’s real lashes  are very likely to come off. Amen?

Some would say, eyelash glue doesn’t hold as well as hair bonding glue. It’s not supposed to hold for 30 days. Your eyes are precious . If you’re not removing the eyelashes daily before bed, shame on you. If  eyelash glue is applied to the lash band properly you can get a great all day hold with something like Duo clear. I’ll admit the glue looks clear depending upon the lash band. If you’re using lashes with the clear plastic band, it can have the tendency of looking like  build up from the glue. I’ve had so much success with Duo. My lashes remain in place until I gently remove them. There isn’t any hair loss in the process.

Throw away the hair bonding glue. It’s just not worth it.  Give these a try. If they don’t work out; there are various options that are far safer than hair bonding glue. DSC_4866.jpg


The Dangers of Counterfeit Makeup

Makeup has become such a trend now. In my opinion it’s because of all the beauty influencers on Youtube. Beauty influencers get paid to review a new foundation.    Makeup brands  have become a high commodity.  Makeup lovers on Youtube will watch makeup reviews and run straight to Targets  cosmetic section.  This can be a bad habit of buying  one variation of the same thing, simply because you saw it on Youtube.

Another problem that stems from buying makeup because of beauty influencers is feeling the pressure of buying  high end brands. The high end brands are pricey. If the brands are out of your budget, you may search  for other avenues to get the same look for more of an affordable price.

This is where the nightmare begins. For instance take at look on  Ebay’s website and look up Just Peachy Too Faced palette. What do you think is in the ingredients to be able to sell this palette for the price it sells for on Ebay? Your first thought wouldn’t be that it could harm you. Right?  The Just Peachy 12 matte shades sell for $45.00 on the Too Faced website. It is gluten, paraben and cruelty free. Not to mention this palette smells like peaches. Imagine that, your eyeshadow smells yummy .

What I’m getting at is don’t be swooned by low prices for high end  cosmetics. It can be fatal to your health . A beauty influencer on Youtube by the name of Tanya Arguelles, experienced the downside of buying counterfeit makeup. You’d be surprised of some ingredients of the ingredients found in counterfeit makeup.  Check out this video for more details. Let me know if you think counterfeit makeup is worth it.


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I make no claims to this photo.

Photo by: Tanya Arguelles



Happy New Year!

To piggy back off of Gabriela, from Cooking With Limits blog post, finding what you love is essential to a healthy life.  It makes no sense to continue doing the same thing and expect a different result. Sure it’s a cliche, but you know it’s tried and true.

I never make resolutions, but I hope for a better year every year. There are so many things I want to achieve. Disturbingly I will never be able to do them all. Therefore, why list them. I take one day at a time and work on anything that is in my control based on the order of importance. Does it sound boring? Yes, it can be, but that’s where patience come into play. They say life is what you make of it. I think life is how you handle it. It may be the same meaning, but it sounds better to me.

Gabriela, learned more about wines in 2017. She discovered the difference between a bad wine and a good one. It’s great to find a passion or calling in this world. It’s so great for the soul. Check out Cooking Without Limits blog. I’m not afraid to promote her blog. She has awesome content and they’re is enough love and opportunities here for all. She’s one of the best food photographers I know. Well, I don’t know her personally, but you get the gist.

For me, I’ve learned to use my past experiences to teach self love to others. I used my Youtube platform to show women that we’re all beautiful and have special talents. I took this to a level where women of all ages, and races reach out to me almost daily to say,  “Thank you for your kind words.” Sometimes all it takes is a compliment to lift another woman’s spirit.   Some of the most beautiful women in the world lack drive, because of the media’s unrealistic standards of beauty.  This is why I have adopted this movement that I believe is incredibly important.  Self hate causes low self esteem, suicide, eating disorders , isolation , mood swings, hatred towards others. I believe I call it catty. Moreover, it can effect your job performance, family relationships and more. It starts with loving yourself first. After learning to love myself for who I am.    It’s truly been gratifying to know that I’ve partaken in something that may seem  small to others, but a huge part of making a difference in someone’s life.  Self love was my mantra in 2017. I think I’ll stay on that path.

Do you make new year’s resolutions?

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When to Throw Away Makeup

Very few people think about the expiration on makeup until it effects them in a harmful way. Especially makeup that someone has paid a pretty nickel for. There is this persona the more it cost the longer it last.

As a matter of fact all makeup has the same shelf life. Some may react to your skin or show signs of expiration more-so than another brand. For instance e.l.f cosmetics is climbing up the popularity charts; with it’s clean black and white packaging.  It is inexpensive, but it offers a nice look for the money. Some of e.l.f’s products may not stand up to  it’s predecessor, but overall it’s doing ok.  It isn’t the worse makeup on the market for sure.

The cream eyeliner in a pot is a great product. Generally it should be replaced every 3 months, which makes more sense to purchase the e.l.f cream eyeliner. It’s only $3.00 and the shelf life is the same as any gel, cream or liquid ( high-end as well) liner.  You get a lot of bang for your buck! It is bold, defining and easy to apply with the small angle brush that came with it. The cream eyeliner is encased in a 17oz. pot. Once it dries, you’ll find that it’s smudge proof, water resistant and coverage for an all day wear. May I suggest you try this liner with Ardell #135 faux lashes or for a more glam look, try Ardell #205. I haven’t tried any of e.l.f’s faux lashes. Perhaps I’ve give them a whirl.

Watch this video to see me speak in detail about this cream eyeliner.ELF_Studio_Cream_Liners


We Have a Love Hate Relationship.

Have you ever loved something so much, you couldn’t dream of being without it? What about the old saying, “All that looks good isn’t good for you?’ Such a cliche, but I hate to tell you it’s true.

Why is the world so full of things that aren’t good for us, God?  Yeah I’m talking to you, but make it known I’m not yelling at you. You’re the almighty.  It’s frustrating to say the least. You allow others to make so many guilty pleasures and the we have to make a choice. Think of the outcome. It sounds to much like life. We have choices; to either choose door number 1 or door number 2.  Besides life is what you make of it. Right?

It’s been nearly three weeks since I’ve been clean. I walk pass them all of the time, sometimes I contemplate having them in my life just one more time. My mind tells me it will not hurt, but my blood says , no. I can think better, have more control and I am worrying less about my well being. Sure, it makes me feel good for the moment.  That’s what hurts so good. No more hiding and indulging with you.  I have comfort and control on a dreary night.  No more  guilt, I’m no longer sluggish and my body doesn’t has to work harder to eliminate it.  I owe my kidneys an apology.

I love you, but I can’t keep doing this to myself.  The longterm affect isn’t worth the doctor visits. When I see you, often times I opt to go the other way. Everything that looks  good isn’t good. I’m sorry but I can’t …



Makeup Remover Wipes Can Irritate Your Skin.

Makeup wipes are quick and convenient but they aren’t an option for skin health. I learned that quickly after purchasing Pacifica Essential makeup remover wipes. Actually is was the confirmation I needed, because years ago I tried ( forgot the brand) another makeup wipe remover and it irritated my skin. However, it didn’t burn me like Pacifica did.

Most people dread taking the time before bed to remove makeup . For me it is all about getting the least amount of makeup from my white wash clothes as possible. It is sort of like using a baby wipe on a babies butt. You want to get the most off with the diaper and leave the rest for the wipe. Therefore, you’re using less wipes. I hope you liked that analogy. Can you visualize poop now?  Ok, I used a Pacifica makeup remover wipe on my face to remove foundation. I also had mascara on. I used the wipes on my lashes to soften the mascara. In less than a second my skin and eyes began to burn. My skin never calmed down until I took a wet wash cloth with cold water and pat my face. I had to literally splash my eyes with water underneath the faucet. My bloody word! It was horrible. I rubbed it down my neck as well to make sure there weren’t much makeup on my neck and it began to burn as well.

After my face cooled down and my vision wasn’t obscured  from the burn I read the ingredients . I noticed it read Common Sense Caution: Avoid contact with eyes. This should have been mentioned on the front of the package . It only states makeup remover wipes on the front . If it’s vegan , cruelty ,paraben, (SLS) Sodium Lauryl Sulfate, and petroleum free then why the heck does it burn? Natural products should harm your eyes. That is like making baby shampoo to harm a babies eyes. What the heck!! wipe.jpgWhile makeup wipes are supposed to be a Godsend. Do yourself a huge favor, get Huggies for sensitive skin in the green packaging . Wipe off the top layer of your makeup to avoid having so much  in your wash cloth. Then take your normal cleaners and wash your face as directed. Make sure you splash the tepid water on your skin to avoid irritation ( If you have sensitive skin like mine) and wipe off the remaining makeup with a white wash cloth. The wipe will remedy the dyes getting into your skin from colored wash cloths. DSC_4741.jpgTake these bougie makeup wipes and clean your light switch with them or something. Keep them away from your face! Don’t let this pretty packing fool you.  A baby wipe has never hurt my eyes.


Ageless Beauty: As We Get Older Our Skin Becomes Dry

It hit me like a train! One morning I woke up and my skin was dry and rough as a cactus plant. I didn’t know what happened . I woke up like that.  I tried facial lotions, creams and I even reduced down to vaseline….ah! Not one thing worked.

As the days went by I noticed my cheeks were swollen, red and there were little fine bumps concentrated mostly over my cheeks. Is this adult acne? I didn’t know what to do. It was itching and turning into a rash. My skin began to look grayish. It was warm to the touch and I was extremely uncomfortable .

At some point I thought I used something to exacerbate  the problem. This led to a trip to Whole foods. I spend hours on end reading each and every skin care product to find everything I used failed, until I tried http://www.acure.com It did’t totally get rid of the dryness but the redness and swelling went down to a minimum. The itching became mild. It wasn’t the cure I was looking for but it calmed it down enough to tolerate it.

What you ageless beauties should know is that your skin will change over time. It is at the mercy of many elements: cold weather, sun, smoking and stress. How your skin ages is depending upon you: Your lifestyle, habits, heredity and diet. Drinks tons of water to flush out the impurities definitely helps. Be sure to get plenty of rest, because your skin will tell that you are a night owl over time.

Skin changes due to age:

* The skin is more fragile

  • The skin loses elastic tissue
  • The skin becomes easily bruised  ( Lord this is me)
  • The skin is rougher

My final thoughts: You can continue to be an ageless beauty. Part of what makes you so beautiful is the fact you age gracefully. You’ll notice a few parallel  lines on your forehead  around the age of 30 or 40 yrs of age. Clean your face gently with your products of choice. Make sure that product doesn’t include bar soap. Use a white cloth and pat your face. Do not scrub. Always go in next with a good moisturizer. Like me, if it isn’t working allow your face a rest period before trying something new. If your skin is sensitive like mine, it will not be able to recover as well from various products at once. This will also ensure which product actually caused an adverse reaction. Be proud of the skin you’re in. Take care…

 No makeup:  Age 48 in this selfie 

Have You Had Your Salad Today?

Eating  a salad everyday should be a normal part of life.  As you know its a way to work in a couple of fruits and veggies.  Instead of cooking up so much elaborate food, that may not be healthy in the first place, make a salad. It goes along with anything. like my favorite salmon and a salad. A salad can be as filling as you want. From english peas, pineapples, apples, cranberries, tuna, carrots, pico de gallo, grilled chicken,  nuts and the list goes on.

Should the salad be your only meal? It really depends on whats included in your salad.  If your have your fiber, that lowers cholesterol and prevents constipation, your’e doing a great service to your gut. Did you know fiber fools the brain into thinking you’re full? Therefore if you have a weight problem you’ll shed some pounds. Also fruits and veggies contribute to overall health. Eat your leaves and fruits!

I eat a salad almost daily. It’s literally becoming a habit. My brain tells me salad, salad, salad. Ok ok…geesh!  I ate one today and it was yummy. Often times I make a salad with whatever is available in the fridge . This way the pressure is off to make a salad I see in a book or something. My salad usually includes nuts, berries, veggies and of course lettuce.

Here is a salad I had recently . Make sure you drink enough water daily …

Yummy Salad
Made from leftovers in the fridge.