We Have a Love Hate Relationship.

Have you ever loved something so much, you couldn’t dream of being without it? What about the old saying, “All that looks good isn’t good for you?’ Such a cliche, but I hate to tell you it’s true.

Why is the world so full of things that aren’t good for us, God?  Yeah I’m talking to you, but make it known I’m not yelling at you. You’re the almighty.  It’s frustrating to say the least. You allow others to make so many guilty pleasures and the we have to make a choice. Think of the outcome. It sounds to much like life. We have choices; to either choose door number 1 or door number 2.  Besides life is what you make of it. Right?

It’s been nearly three weeks since I’ve been clean. I walk pass them all of the time, sometimes I contemplate having them in my life just one more time. My mind tells me it will not hurt, but my blood says , no. I can think better, have more control and I am worrying less about my well being. Sure, it makes me feel good for the moment.  That’s what hurts so good. No more hiding and indulging with you.  I have comfort and control on a dreary night.  No more  guilt, I’m no longer sluggish and my body doesn’t has to work harder to eliminate it.  I owe my kidneys an apology.

I love you, but I can’t keep doing this to myself.  The longterm affect isn’t worth the doctor visits. When I see you, often times I opt to go the other way. Everything that looks  good isn’t good. I’m sorry but I can’t …

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Makeup Remover Wipes Can Irritate Your Skin.

Makeup wipes are quick and convenient but they aren’t an option for skin health. I learned that quickly after purchasing Pacifica Essential makeup remover wipes. Actually is was the confirmation I needed, because years ago I tried ( forgot the brand) another makeup wipe remover and it irritated my skin. However, it didn’t burn me like Pacifica did.

Most people dread taking the time before bed to remove makeup . For me it is all about getting the least amount of makeup from my white wash clothes as possible. It is sort of like using a baby wipe on a babies butt. You want to get the most off with the diaper and leave the rest for the wipe. Therefore, you’re using less wipes. I hope you liked that analogy. Can you visualize poop now?  Ok, I used a Pacifica makeup remover wipe on my face to remove foundation. I also had mascara on. I used the wipes on my lashes to soften the mascara. In less than a second my skin and eyes began to burn. My skin never calmed down until I took a wet wash cloth with cold water and pat my face. I had to literally splash my eyes with water underneath the faucet. My bloody word! It was horrible. I rubbed it down my neck as well to make sure there weren’t much makeup on my neck and it began to burn as well.

After my face cooled down and my vision wasn’t obscured  from the burn I read the ingredients . I noticed it read Common Sense Caution: Avoid contact with eyes. This should have been mentioned on the front of the package . It only states makeup remover wipes on the front . If it’s vegan , cruelty ,paraben, (SLS) Sodium Lauryl Sulfate, and petroleum free then why the heck does it burn? Natural products should harm your eyes. That is like making baby shampoo to harm a babies eyes. What the heck!! wipe.jpgWhile makeup wipes are supposed to be a Godsend. Do yourself a huge favor, get Huggies for sensitive skin in the green packaging . Wipe off the top layer of your makeup to avoid having so much  in your wash cloth. Then take your normal cleaners and wash your face as directed. Make sure you splash the tepid water on your skin to avoid irritation ( If you have sensitive skin like mine) and wipe off the remaining makeup with a white wash cloth. The wipe will remedy the dyes getting into your skin from colored wash cloths. DSC_4741.jpgTake these bougie makeup wipes and clean your light switch with them or something. Keep them away from your face! Don’t let this pretty packing fool you.  A baby wipe has never hurt my eyes.

Ageless Beauty: As We Get Older Our Skin Becomes Dry

It hit me like a train! One morning I woke up and my skin was dry and rough as a cactus plant. I didn’t know what happened . I woke up like that.  I tried facial lotions, creams and I even reduced down to vaseline….ah! Not one thing worked.

As the days went by I noticed my cheeks were swollen, red and there were little fine bumps concentrated mostly over my cheeks. Is this adult acne? I didn’t know what to do. It was itching and turning into a rash. My skin began to look grayish. It was warm to the touch and I was extremely uncomfortable .

At some point I thought I used something to exacerbate  the problem. This led to a trip to Whole foods. I spend hours on end reading each and every skin care product to find everything I used failed, until I tried http://www.acure.com It did’t totally get rid of the dryness but the redness and swelling went down to a minimum. The itching became mild. It wasn’t the cure I was looking for but it calmed it down enough to tolerate it.

What you ageless beauties should know is that your skin will change over time. It is at the mercy of many elements: cold weather, sun, smoking and stress. How your skin ages is depending upon you: Your lifestyle, habits, heredity and diet. Drinks tons of water to flush out the impurities definitely helps. Be sure to get plenty of rest, because your skin will tell that you are a night owl over time.

Skin changes due to age:

* The skin is more fragile

  • The skin loses elastic tissue
  • The skin becomes easily bruised  ( Lord this is me)
  • The skin is rougher

My final thoughts: You can continue to be an ageless beauty. Part of what makes you so beautiful is the fact you age gracefully. You’ll notice a few parallel  lines on your forehead  around the age of 30 or 40 yrs of age. Clean your face gently with your products of choice. Make sure that product doesn’t include bar soap. Use a white cloth and pat your face. Do not scrub. Always go in next with a good moisturizer. Like me, if it isn’t working allow your face a rest period before trying something new. If your skin is sensitive like mine, it will not be able to recover as well from various products at once. This will also ensure which product actually caused an adverse reaction. Be proud of the skin you’re in. Take care…

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 No makeup:  Age 48 in this selfie 

Have You Had Your Salad Today?

Eating  a salad everyday should be a normal part of life.  As you know its a way to work in a couple of fruits and veggies.  Instead of cooking up so much elaborate food, that may not be healthy in the first place, make a salad. It goes along with anything. like my favorite salmon and a salad. A salad can be as filling as you want. From english peas, pineapples, apples, cranberries, tuna, carrots, pico de gallo, grilled chicken,  nuts and the list goes on.

Should the salad be your only meal? It really depends on whats included in your salad.  If your have your fiber, that lowers cholesterol and prevents constipation, your’e doing a great service to your gut. Did you know fiber fools the brain into thinking you’re full? Therefore if you have a weight problem you’ll shed some pounds. Also fruits and veggies contribute to overall health. Eat your leaves and fruits!

I eat a salad almost daily. It’s literally becoming a habit. My brain tells me salad, salad, salad. Ok ok…geesh!  I ate one today and it was yummy. Often times I make a salad with whatever is available in the fridge . This way the pressure is off to make a salad I see in a book or something. My salad usually includes nuts, berries, veggies and of course lettuce.

Here is a salad I had recently . Make sure you drink enough water daily …

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Made from leftovers in the fridge.

Don’t Think; Just Drink

I’ve been making smoothies quite a bit these days. Actually I’ve lost track of how long it’s been. It is the healthiest, easiest and cheapest thing to make.  It also saves time, thought,   and pots and pans. Let me explain before you get too worked up. Give me a chance before you go to someone else’s blog ok?

Yes, I said cheap. You don’t think fruits and veggies are cheap? It depends on how you look at it.  If I had to buy sausage, bread,  grits and flour for pancakes all of the time, this would cost more in the long run . Let me break it down a bit more. A large bag of fruit for $12.00 will last nearly 1 month. I’d purchase 3 -4 cartons of Almond milk. This is only the basics. Sometimes I have kale, with peanut butter. For 1 month this would come to about $32.00 for the month. The items I mentioned before . The sausage …ect. It would be about $17.00 and would only last 2 days  depending on how much you eat or if you bought large quantities.

The smoothie will provide raw veggies and fruits that are essential to getting unprocessed uncooked foods to ensure I get all of the nutrients without the dangerous additives. You can’t get that from a pack of processed sausage.  It’s ok in moderation, but I think you’ll be surprised at how much punch ( energy) you’ll gain from drinking smoothies. Stay away from the store bought smoothies. No, not those. They are full of sugar and other preservatives. smoothie-1884-1

Benefits of drinking smoothies is to drink without thinking of what you’ll eat every morning for breakfast.

Other benefits of  drinking smoothies:

  • Improves digestion
  • Lower inflammation
  • Improving heart health
  • Prevent or treat constipation
  • Help liver function
  • Provides energy
  • Clear up your skin
  • Prevents cancer
  • Prevent nutrient deficiencies ( Ex. low iron)
  • Maintain healthy body weight

 

 

 

Underwire Bra Issues

Are any of you ladies having bra issues? I delayed this blog post for a while, because I really didn’t know where to begin. Although I’m still not sure, I don’t want to postpone my thoughts any longer. If you’re reading this you’re more likely a lady that has had some issues with bras over the years as well.

Dating back when I first started wearing bras. I was around ( 9) years old. I remember how annoying it was to wear. Then they looked more like sport bras where I simply stuck my head through the large opening and place my arms through the side openings. Its was so annoying! They itched, rubbed and always felt constricting. Do you remember that?  When I became a teen I moved to a bra with more support. The bra actually had cup sizes. Anytime I was in class it would rise with the slightest arm raise. My bra would always become lopped sided. I’d always think if I were a boy; I wouldn’t have to go through this. I’d only get jealous of boys during the summer, when they could just rip off their shirts in public and mow the lawn. If I was hot, I had to drink cold water. The shirt had to stay on. How unfair was that! LOL

Eventually I heard this talk about unwire. I asked my mom if she could buy  one for me to see if it would help with my rising problems. She did and it helped a bunch.  However, no  one warned me about the metal leaving bruises and marks under the breast. Perhaps I’m wearing them too tight. I’d loosen the shoulder straps and the band. In most cases it didn’t help. It’s something you get use to as a girl.

Once I became an adult, I realized the more the bra cost, the better the padding over the wire.  It didn’t fix the comfort, but it was padded much better. There was a difference in the quality as well.  The bra would fit the shoulders and not the back or vice versus. I have never had the best of both worlds. A few years ago I went to a lingerie boutique by the name of LiviRae. It’s in Kennesaw, Georgia. They’ve had a docuseries on Lifetime called Double Divas. They are best friends Molly Hopkins and Cynthia Decker. They were known as the ” bra whisperer .”The first episode was January 10, 2013 – September 24, 2013. Molly always tried finding her customers the perfect fit and Cynthia created sexy garments . They traveled across the globe to fittings and bridal shows and other related events.

One day I made it a girls day with my daughter. We went to get fitted for bras together at LiviRae’s.  I forgot to mention they named the boutique after  their daughters Olivia and Rainey. I thought this was cute since they are best friends.  As I mentioned my daughter and I went to a bra fitting. It was so exciting! There were women everywhere waiting to get fitted for the perfect bra. I felt hopeful, because the Double Divas had large breast and I thought surely they can help me. I’m only a  B cup….or a C. Who knows! It was weird for my daughter to get fitted with me. They put us in the same dressing room. Whenever I got fitted she’d close her eyes. I remember her saying, ” ewww I don’t want to see my mom.” They asked her if she’d like to go in a separate room, but she chose to stay because the wait was an hour. She’d have to get back out their with the general population and wait another hour.  After our fitting , they told me I’ve been wearing the wrong bra for 100 years! They didn’t really say it that way. It is was my comprehension after we all laughed so much about it. In their words, ” you should be wearing a 32D.” What! I was confused.  The bra was a little on the pricey side. They ranged from $45 – $70. That was  the  price range for the bras I tried on.  I think they had some much higher. The one I tried on is the actually one I could purchase. I purchased one for $45.00. I don’t recall what I paid for my daughters. I bought it, because it is the first time a cup size actually fit me. However, I didn’t realize until after a few wears that the band was uncomfortable . I kept the bra, but don’t wear it often.  As I mentioned earlier, I’ve always been able to accomplish one without the other. If the bad fits, the cups or too big and the shoulder straps fall off.  I’m a chick and I’ve always had this chick issue. I’ve learned to accept it.

Bra sizes can be confusing. The number is the band size.  The letter is your cup size. If you choose the wrong band size, your back can begin to ache and leave impressions in your skin. This could mean it’s too tight . If you choose the wrong cup size, your breast are lost and sagging around. The bra hangs and your shoulder straps fall. Lovely!!

When most women get home from a long day; the bra is the first thing to go! I’m the same. I work from home. Guess what?  No bra! I’m not sure what to do because bras are just uncomfortable . Lately I’ve had issues with bruising. It’s frustrating. Now I’m thinking about not buying anymore bras with under wire. I’ve read and heard the metal can compress breast tissue and cause benign tumors. In general as you get older everything starts to become more bothersome. Lately bras have been more of an issue than ever.

Where should I go to try another bra? Have any of you gotten a custom fit? Thats what I thought I got at LiviRae’s, but they were off the shelf. I’m thinking  more like someone making my bras for me. I’m going to do some research and get back with you on it. In the meantime I’m going to try Intimates. They offer bra fittings as well. If any of you thought about telling me about Victoria Secret . Nope! It’s a big box store and they just want to sell you anything there. I’ve tried them. Besides  they seem to be more interested in PINK.  The Pink line appeals more to young girls around ( 9) years and up.  I have woman problems.

As of late, I went crawling back to the ugly rubbery sports bra. These type of bras you see pictured have not been my best friend.  The sports bras aren’t as bad as I thought. They’ve been a bit more comfortable and I’m not worrying too much about how they look. Another characteristic of an older woman . Comfort before cuteness. Wow! I really can’t believe I said that, but my breast health is extremely important. Nubian-Skin-Promo-3

Organic vs. Regular Apples

At some point you really have to do your own research. I’ve always heard an apple a day will keep the doctor away. Did anyone ever specify if a regular apple or an organic apple mattered?

Apples contain nutrients that are friendly to the skin. The benefits of eating apples include antioxidants ,  fiber, vitamin c and potassium. According to experts the peel of the apple contains anti growth fighting activities against cancer. It’s weird there isn’t a cure for cancer, but somehow experts no exactly what to eat to help prevent it. Huh…

Have you noticed the shiny pretty apples that has a longer shelf life than the dull apples? They are usually filled with pesticides to coat the exterior of the fruit. However, that pesticide enters the apple. This means you’re ingesting pesticide. By which you are trying to eat healthy. How backwards is this? Guess what? According to experts pesticides cause cancer.

Buy the ugly dry dull apples. No, they don’t last long on the shelf. They aren’t meant to be a display on your kitchen. Eat them. Get a quality apple slicer, because some are flimsy and will break after a few uses.  It’s not just the dull apples, make sure they are organic.

Things you can eat to include apples in your diet:

  1. If you eat toast, eggs,   chicken apple sausage with apples slices
  2. Peanut butter and apples slices for snack
  3. Wheat crackers, dairy free cheese and apple slices
  4. Oatmeal with apple slices
  5. Pancakes and apple slices…you get the gist

Eat organic apples. A healthy diet begins with fruits and veggies. I hope you love my pictures. I love photography and I always try to use my images for every blog. untitled-4658-1.jpg

 

Regain A Positive Identity

Let me start from the least important to the most important factors.

1. Inspire others:

If you radiate positivity and happiness to others, you’ll internalize it. It will naturally become who you are. If you follow me on Instagram @ daralynn_l  I exemplify how it has become apart of me.

2. Seek an expert:

If you are truly unhappy with yourself, a Psychologist or therapist may be able to help you work towards self love.

3. Get help from a close friend:

A real friend will tell you the truth . They see things inside of you, that you can’t readily see as you are in the moment of your feelings. Ask them if they’ve ever felt the way you do. If so, how did they handle the concern.

4. Always surround yourself with positive people:

It helps to be around people that will be you up. They are your biggest cheerleaders. They think you’re an awesome and talented person.

5. Become social : 

Get interested in others. It takes the focus away from yourself. Do this by being genuine and honest. Some people can detect a fake a mile away. Celebrate other peoples accomplishments such as a new baby, new house,  promotions, marriages or test scores. In turn others will unconsciously do the same for you. You don’t want to boast about yourself and become misinterpreted as a narcissist.

6. Be intrinsically motivated: 

Being able to rely less on others for praises or financial gain in order to achieve your goals.  Be persistent and take chances. Involve yourself in activities that make you feel alive and complete. Like me, I enjoy building a beautiful portfolio of a woman. It makes me feel good, to show her what she’s missing- a gorgeous woman in front of my lens.

7. Create attainable goals: 

The first thing to do is fix what you can change. It doesn’t matter if it’s directly for you or not. If it’s bothersome work on it. Having goals increases happiness.  This will help you progress to your true self. I have a financial goal this year. I wrote down the plan and the goal on how I will achieve it.  Let go of what you can’t change.  For instance your height,  ethnicity  or  your family upbringing.

8. Build your character: 

Donate your money or time to a charity. This helps you feel like you are giving back. There are places to donate clothes to ( for instance) a women’s shelter. The women may be getting shaped up to get back into the work force, but they don’t have any business attire. You may have tons of nice business casual clothes to donate. It can put a smile on the recipients and face and yours too.

9. Have respect for yourself:

Treat yourself well and not allow anyone to treat you like old garbage. Get enough rest, drink plenty of water. This is how you respect health. Choose your clothes wisely according to your body type and the occasion . Putting time into your wardrobe says a lot about how you feel about your appearance. This is widely connected to self love.

10. Have a little positive talk with yourself:

If it will help, post positive affirmations around the house. Take selfies and positive them on Instagram with positive messages. This removes anxiety, negative emotions and increases confidence. If you didn’t pass a test. Tell yourself it’s ok. Now you know what to expect when you take it again.

Don’t allow small mistakes effect your overall health and identity. untitled-1606-2_pp

You’re awesome !

 

 

The Origin of the Word Flap Jacks

untitled-4603-1.jpgHere is another excuse to show you a photo I created; one morning after making flapjacks.   The first time I ever heard that word is when I was a little girl knee high to a sidewalk. My dad would talk about how he ate so many flapjacks growing up.

Have you ever thought about where the name flapjacks originated?  Flapjacks dates back to the 1300’s when ” flap” was used in place of “flip.” The jack was used to refer to something smaller than normal. No one really knows why flapjacks was used to describe pancakes, but there isn’t any difference than today when a named is tagged on to something and you never really know why.

I can only eat just one because I normally make them huge. It’s tough for me to order flapjacks  from a restaurant , no one seems to understand my love for the  charred, crispy edges. Never drown them in syrup. It will soak up regular syrup and you’d find yourself pouring more and more. Now you’ll find yourself eating a bowl of sugar.  It’s best with pure honey or agave nectar.   It’s delicious with a strong sweet taste. The taste is so strong until you only need  very little for flavor. Not to mention agave is derived from a plant. Which is much healthier than refined sugar.

Flapjacks are often  served  with syrup, chocolate chips, whip cream, blueberries, bananas, cherries, apples, powdered sugar, chicken, candy sprinkles, jam, honey , agave nectar, applesauce, oranges, nuts, caramel sauce, yogurt and shredded coconut.  If you have tried anything different . Share it with me. I’d love to know.

The Next Word That Comes After Summer, Is Corn.

Hey there! I’m so happy you stopped by. I was hoping we could chat a bit about how elated I am that summer is here! My first thought is bring out the grill. Who wants to stand over a hot stove during the summer? The smell of summer is so tantalizing , but depending on what part of the world you live in. Summer is really here! You no longer have to dream about it or look at beautiful summer adventures in magazines.

Fresh corn is one of my favorite summer foods. Especially the yellow and white corn mixed. Oh! Did you know that  June 11th is  National Corn on The Cobb Day?

There are so many ways to cook corn on the cobb, including boiling, roasting, grilling and steaming. Most of the time I don’t eat it in any elaborate way.  Salt, pepper and a bit of vegan butter will suffice. Believe it or not I’ve eaten fresh corn on the cobb without any seasonings. It’s like a Mercedes, it great alone. How do you like yours?

Here are some recipe ideas using corn :

  1. Roasted corn and tomato salad
  2. Creamy corn chowder
  3. Mexican elotes bisque
  4. Charred corn and black beans
  5. Veggie graten
  6. Sweet corn ice-cream

I can’t leave without touching the heath benefits of corn.  I wanted to be a nurse. Therefore, it’s in my blood. The antioxidants in corn helps protect the body from cancer and heart disease. I’m sure you get the most health benefits from corn that isn’t highly seasoned. Don’t quote me on this. I’m not a doctor. It’s just my educated guest. ( Hehe) The sweet corn is  loaded with lutein.  It promotes healthy vision. So, eat your sweets!

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