Regain A Positive Identity

Let me start from the least important to the most important factors.

1. Inspire others:

If you radiate positivity and happiness to others, you’ll internalize it. It will naturally become who you are. If you follow me on Instagram @ daralynn_l  I exemplify how it has become apart of me.

2. Seek an expert:

If you are truly unhappy with yourself, a Psychologist or therapist may be able to help you work towards self love.

3. Get help from a close friend:

A real friend will tell you the truth . They see things inside of you, that you can’t readily see as you are in the moment of your feelings. Ask them if they’ve ever felt the way you do. If so, how did they handle the concern.

4. Always surround yourself with positive people:

It helps to be around people that will be you up. They are your biggest cheerleaders. They think you’re an awesome and talented person.

5. Become social : 

Get interested in others. It takes the focus away from yourself. Do this by being genuine and honest. Some people can detect a fake a mile away. Celebrate other peoples accomplishments such as a new baby, new house,  promotions, marriages or test scores. In turn others will unconsciously do the same for you. You don’t want to boast about yourself and become misinterpreted as a narcissist.

6. Be intrinsically motivated: 

Being able to rely less on others for praises or financial gain in order to achieve your goals.  Be persistent and take chances. Involve yourself in activities that make you feel alive and complete. Like me, I enjoy building a beautiful portfolio of a woman. It makes me feel good, to show her what she’s missing- a gorgeous woman in front of my lens.

7. Create attainable goals: 

The first thing to do is fix what you can change. It doesn’t matter if it’s directly for you or not. If it’s bothersome work on it. Having goals increases happiness.  This will help you progress to your true self. I have a financial goal this year. I wrote down the plan and the goal on how I will achieve it.  Let go of what you can’t change.  For instance your height,  ethnicity  or  your family upbringing.

8. Build your character: 

Donate your money or time to a charity. This helps you feel like you are giving back. There are places to donate clothes to ( for instance) a women’s shelter. The women may be getting shaped up to get back into the work force, but they don’t have any business attire. You may have tons of nice business casual clothes to donate. It can put a smile on the recipients and face and yours too.

9. Have respect for yourself:

Treat yourself well and not allow anyone to treat you like old garbage. Get enough rest, drink plenty of water. This is how you respect health. Choose your clothes wisely according to your body type and the occasion . Putting time into your wardrobe says a lot about how you feel about your appearance. This is widely connected to self love.

10. Have a little positive talk with yourself:

If it will help, post positive affirmations around the house. Take selfies and positive them on Instagram with positive messages. This removes anxiety, negative emotions and increases confidence. If you didn’t pass a test. Tell yourself it’s ok. Now you know what to expect when you take it again.

Don’t allow small mistakes effect your overall health and identity. untitled-1606-2_pp

You’re awesome !

 

 

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Fashion Fair Cosmetics Will Need to Appeal to a Younger Audience

I don’t wear makeup everyday. It should be against the law to not wear it on special days, such as weddings and professional photos. I don’t care if it’s a dang family photo, put some makeup on.

Ok, I’m calm. I got that off of my chest. When I was a teenager. If I remember correctly I was in the tenth grade. That would make me about …ummm I was Fifteen  years of age. I graduate from high school at the age of seventeen. The first thing my mom allowed me to wear was lipstick. She didn’t allow a full face of makeup, but I don’t think I was interested in a full face. Lips and eyes is all I liked. I used the envelop a bit and begged to wear eye liner. I moved to eyeliner in the eleventh grade.

My mom introduced me to Fashion Fair cosmetics. It was a strictly created for women of color back in the day. It was founded in 1973. Mom took me to the mall and I tried on a few creamy lipsticks and fell in love with chocolate raspberry . It is a color that was long lasting, long before  so – called long lasting shades were created. It is a pink rather loud pink. It isn’t pale frosty pink or too red. I wore that lipstick with everything. I always received compliments whenever I would wear it.

The issue today: Fashion Fair ( FF) is disappearing from department stores. I’ve search and it is difficult to find a FF counter. Once I found it at Belk and I was elated. However, I was saddened by how no one ever came to the counter to help me. The FF counter didn’t have one soul attending to it. As I looked around the cosmetics department , other associates would look off when I tried to get their attention. Another thing that concerned me is the counter wasn’t as flattering as it’s predecessors. It was an embarrassment to the brand. I’ve always supported FF. It was a top seller when I was a teen and it was an awesome product.

The problem is teens think of FF as old lady makeup. Teens today think of makeup, more than likely they will look at NYX, LO’real, Too Faced, Rimmel, Urban Decay, Tarte, NARS & ELF to name a few. You know that I’m right. I see you nodding your head. Well, in my head you are.

Did you know Fashion Fair is an extension of Jet Magazine. Jet’s last subscription was in 2014, due to loss in revenue. They are looking into re branding. They’ve started by changing the pink compacts to a bronze more hip color. It doesn’t stop there. The website has received a facelift as well. Soon I expect to see more ads for FF. Although I’m one person, that is what it takes. At least one to start a movement. I believe in the brand. I only have one Youtube video, showing off my nearly used chocolate raspberry lipstick . I’ll be creating more videos on FF cosmetics. I can’t forget about our history together. Eventually I used the foundation, and lipstick.

Fashion Fair, is in need of the younger generation. Bring life back to FF, please. Frankly no one wants to see me wear Fashion Fair in an ad. I came from the times when it was hot to have a pink FF compact in my purse. I remember that little mirror. I glide on my chocolate raspberry lipstick. Child, I thought I was cute….hehe

This a current selfie shot of me at 48 years young. I have on chocolate raspberry lipstick, by Fashion Fair. Who says brown skin can’t wear pink?untitled-1500

10. Reasons Why You Can’t Be Anything You Want To Be.

As a child I had high hopes for my future. At nine years of age, I knew I wanted to be a photographer . Then later ( Young adult) in my life I added midwifery to the list as well. My love for photography is steadfast. There isn’t a moment I don’t think about how I can turn something into an art form from a photo. I see things differently when I look at it.   Experts say that people like me are right brained. I’m creative and definitely intuitive.

As for being a midwife.  I never became one, but I tried by enrolling in college and studying until 3:00 in the morning.   The courses were not so bad. I scored very high in subjects such as,  anatomy, English and science.  The not- so -easy stuff to most people. However, my math scores …lets just say there wasn’t a score board for me. Often times my scores were ( F t) . Have you ever heard of F plus? That was me.  I wanted so much to be a midwife, because I found the reproductive system highly interesting. My goals were to take my photography skills and integrate it with midwifery. Clever huh? Despite how much I tried it didn’t happen. I tried for over 2 years in college, until I was kicked out of college after academic probation.  No matter how great my other classes were going, I needed to pass them all.  Yes, I could have tried at a later time in life, but life got in the way, got married, had children, grew older and the math side of my brain is completely hopeless.  The math side of my  brain didn’t shut down. It never opened.  I have a reason for my math skills being so low, but thats another blog.

Anywho, my passion for photography is alive and well today. I get the pleasure to photograph women  in all situations. However, I do not like nude photography. There is a lot more beauty and appeal in clothes. My genre  is beauty and weddings. I’ll find the beauty in any woman and catch it with my lens!   I don’t like basic stare( cheese photos) at the camera type images. Although there are times when that type of photography is needed. Such as a family photo or product shot.  I’m always thinking the possibility of the photo becoming wall art.

I’m not where I want to be in the field of photography . I’d love it if I got to shoot more weddings and beauty images.  It would be a plus be able to have more images framed and hung on the walls of my customers. I’ve been working on my home gallery for years.  A dream differed !

Who says you can be anything you want to be? It’s the classic phrase every parent has probably said. There are so many obstacles that can get in the way.

  1. Health
  2. Job
  3. Family members
  4. Spouse
  5. Yourself
  6. Lack opportunities
  7. Knowledge
  8. Money
  9. Friends
  10. Tools

 

I can’t be anything I want to be – but I can be a lot more of who I am already ? A great photographer!sweet-ice-cream-photography-91777.jpg