Regain A Positive Identity

Let me start from the least important to the most important factors.

1. Inspire others:

If you radiate positivity and happiness to others, you’ll internalize it. It will naturally become who you are. If you follow me on Instagram @ daralynn_l  I exemplify how it has become apart of me.

2. Seek an expert:

If you are truly unhappy with yourself, a Psychologist or therapist may be able to help you work towards self love.

3. Get help from a close friend:

A real friend will tell you the truth . They see things inside of you, that you can’t readily see as you are in the moment of your feelings. Ask them if they’ve ever felt the way you do. If so, how did they handle the concern.

4. Always surround yourself with positive people:

It helps to be around people that will be you up. They are your biggest cheerleaders. They think you’re an awesome and talented person.

5. Become social : 

Get interested in others. It takes the focus away from yourself. Do this by being genuine and honest. Some people can detect a fake a mile away. Celebrate other peoples accomplishments such as a new baby, new house,  promotions, marriages or test scores. In turn others will unconsciously do the same for you. You don’t want to boast about yourself and become misinterpreted as a narcissist.

6. Be intrinsically motivated: 

Being able to rely less on others for praises or financial gain in order to achieve your goals.  Be persistent and take chances. Involve yourself in activities that make you feel alive and complete. Like me, I enjoy building a beautiful portfolio of a woman. It makes me feel good, to show her what she’s missing- a gorgeous woman in front of my lens.

7. Create attainable goals: 

The first thing to do is fix what you can change. It doesn’t matter if it’s directly for you or not. If it’s bothersome work on it. Having goals increases happiness.  This will help you progress to your true self. I have a financial goal this year. I wrote down the plan and the goal on how I will achieve it.  Let go of what you can’t change.  For instance your height,  ethnicity  or  your family upbringing.

8. Build your character: 

Donate your money or time to a charity. This helps you feel like you are giving back. There are places to donate clothes to ( for instance) a women’s shelter. The women may be getting shaped up to get back into the work force, but they don’t have any business attire. You may have tons of nice business casual clothes to donate. It can put a smile on the recipients and face and yours too.

9. Have respect for yourself:

Treat yourself well and not allow anyone to treat you like old garbage. Get enough rest, drink plenty of water. This is how you respect health. Choose your clothes wisely according to your body type and the occasion . Putting time into your wardrobe says a lot about how you feel about your appearance. This is widely connected to self love.

10. Have a little positive talk with yourself:

If it will help, post positive affirmations around the house. Take selfies and positive them on Instagram with positive messages. This removes anxiety, negative emotions and increases confidence. If you didn’t pass a test. Tell yourself it’s ok. Now you know what to expect when you take it again.

Don’t allow small mistakes effect your overall health and identity. untitled-1606-2_pp

You’re awesome !

 

 

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Fashion Fair Cosmetics Will Need to Appeal to a Younger Audience

I don’t wear makeup everyday. It should be against the law to not wear it on special days, such as weddings and professional photos. I don’t care if it’s a dang family photo, put some makeup on.

Ok, I’m calm. I got that off of my chest. When I was a teenager. If I remember correctly I was in the tenth grade. That would make me about …ummm I was Fifteen  years of age. I graduate from high school at the age of seventeen. The first thing my mom allowed me to wear was lipstick. She didn’t allow a full face of makeup, but I don’t think I was interested in a full face. Lips and eyes is all I liked. I used the envelop a bit and begged to wear eye liner. I moved to eyeliner in the eleventh grade.

My mom introduced me to Fashion Fair cosmetics. It was a strictly created for women of color back in the day. It was founded in 1973. Mom took me to the mall and I tried on a few creamy lipsticks and fell in love with chocolate raspberry . It is a color that was long lasting, long before  so – called long lasting shades were created. It is a pink rather loud pink. It isn’t pale frosty pink or too red. I wore that lipstick with everything. I always received compliments whenever I would wear it.

The issue today: Fashion Fair ( FF) is disappearing from department stores. I’ve search and it is difficult to find a FF counter. Once I found it at Belk and I was elated. However, I was saddened by how no one ever came to the counter to help me. The FF counter didn’t have one soul attending to it. As I looked around the cosmetics department , other associates would look off when I tried to get their attention. Another thing that concerned me is the counter wasn’t as flattering as it’s predecessors. It was an embarrassment to the brand. I’ve always supported FF. It was a top seller when I was a teen and it was an awesome product.

The problem is teens think of FF as old lady makeup. Teens today think of makeup, more than likely they will look at NYX, LO’real, Too Faced, Rimmel, Urban Decay, Tarte, NARS & ELF to name a few. You know that I’m right. I see you nodding your head. Well, in my head you are.

Did you know Fashion Fair is an extension of Jet Magazine. Jet’s last subscription was in 2014, due to loss in revenue. They are looking into re branding. They’ve started by changing the pink compacts to a bronze more hip color. It doesn’t stop there. The website has received a facelift as well. Soon I expect to see more ads for FF. Although I’m one person, that is what it takes. At least one to start a movement. I believe in the brand. I only have one Youtube video, showing off my nearly used chocolate raspberry lipstick . I’ll be creating more videos on FF cosmetics. I can’t forget about our history together. Eventually I used the foundation, and lipstick.

Fashion Fair, is in need of the younger generation. Bring life back to FF, please. Frankly no one wants to see me wear Fashion Fair in an ad. I came from the times when it was hot to have a pink FF compact in my purse. I remember that little mirror. I glide on my chocolate raspberry lipstick. Child, I thought I was cute….hehe

This a current selfie shot of me at 48 years young. I have on chocolate raspberry lipstick, by Fashion Fair. Who says brown skin can’t wear pink?untitled-1500

Facing Fears And Loving Yourself : The Solution to Being a Happy Successful Woman.

I have been contemplating writing this blog about this topic for so long. Yet it keeps resurfacing my brain like the plague. This time I decided I’m going to write about the importance of women ( of all races) loving themselves and facing their fears. Believe it or not the two goes hand in hand. If you’ve been following my blog I discuss things that interest me. This shouldn’t be a surprise , because it’s what makes a good blog, when one can share their  knowledge and interest. However, I hope my blog doesn’t seem too broad or bore you to death.  I mean my topics are related to anything from food, weddings , and shopping tips. Initially my idea was to discuss only photography tips. It’s my main interest in the world . My eyes is a lens. I see potential photos throughout my daily life.  For the longest I couldn’t think of a blog title and AskDaralynn , just stuck into my head.  It probably doesn’t  make much sense, because I rarely get asked questions. This will possibly be the first blog without a photo. I love photos and its pretty tough for me to write a blog without  posting a photo. However, this is more about something very thought provoking . I want you to really dig deep into your soul and only think of yourself at the moment.  Place a photo in your mind of yourself, while reading this blog.

If you’ve been hating yourself. Stop it today! I know this sounds like a cliche, but you are truly beautiful inside and out. No one can be a better you, than you.  As a woman myself this thought process did not come to fruition over night and it didn’t come until I believed it. A million people can tell me I’m awesome! Until I made up in my mind that I’m smart, beautiful and worthy, things begin to change for the better.  Hopefully you are still with me here. This is an unusual topic for me. However, it is something I’ve struggled with for years.

You should check out my Instagram. Go to http://www.instagram.com/daralynn_L  It’s mainly about self love. If you are struggling with self love, I want you to do two things for me. Take a bunch of selfies and post them on social media. Analyze them and mention as many great things about yourself as you can think of. It doesn’t matter what you wear or how your hair is styled. You don’t have to post your thoughts . People will think you are a narcissist  or some snob. Just post a picture and say something nice. Leave a nice quote. It works for self love. Comment on something nice about another woman.  Do it! In the beginning if you’re not accustom to photos of yourself, you’ll feel silly or you may think you don’t look good enough. Do it anyway! The more pictures you take, the more positive things you say, it begins to become a part of you.  Hopefully this topic will inspire someone to change their existing situation to a much better one.

Facing fears doesn’t always mean you should face each and everyone of your fears, but the ones that have enslaved you the most in life. Often times its is the fear of being independent , strong and loving yourself as a women. Without courage and a positive mindset, the will to challenge yourself, you’ll always have doubt. You’ll always depend on a man to make you whole. If the man in your life disappoints you, you’d have to settle because of the lack of self esteem and skills.

The brain is a powerful organ. It will grow into the direction based on the information it is fed.  Feed it negativity and it becomes who you are.  A negative Nancy. If you not only speak on positive things about yourself, but act on them as well.  It will become second nature. You’ll begin to feel better about yourself, start to treat yourself in a more kind and loving way and that’s when the doors of success start to open. No matter what you think you see in the mirror; tell yourself otherwise. Repeat each day: I’m worthy, beautiful and good as any other woman . You can’t rely on others to see your worth. If you need someone to express your worth each day; you aren’t confident in yourself. You’ll only live for compliments.

This isn’t about women who chant and boast about how they don’t need a man, but more about being happy with yourself. No matter where you are in life, in order to be a successful woman, in anything you do;  you must FIRST love yourself. This sounds like I’m beating this topic over your head, but it is so true. Too many women hate themselves.   There are the normal struggles like PMS…that’s a mouth full in itself.  Then we add more pressure by sizing ourselves  up with others.   We have the media and men to thank for that. It’s easy to find yourself not good enough. Your boobs are to small, saggy, or too big. Your waist isn’t small enough or its too big. Your skin is too light , too dark , your hair is too curly, too nappy or too straight . You are too tall, too short, too fat, to small. You’re not smart enough, good enough or you walk strange . If you hear this all of your life, it’s enough to drive anyone insane. Plastic surgery can not fix your mind.

The happiest woman is the confident one whom loves herself.